Asked partner to catch a CAE out of one of my tanks. In the process- he knocked out a cave I had buried under the gravel and filled part of the under gravel filter with gravel.
Its impossible to fix without removing everything and putting everything back. Or I get used to having one cave instead of two; or I pull up the under gravel and redo it without the system since its full of gravel.
Maybe if it was set up for two or three years I'd be more philosophical- ah well its due for a change anyway etc. But it was *barely* three months old. Its a very deep tank so its a PITA to access the bottom area.
I also asked him to get some glass cut for the top and it turned out wrong. It won't fit, even though I gave him measurements (that would fit the area minus plants). He remembered and…. forgot the prominent plants. So the glass cover won't fit. He also forgot to take the other glass bit to the glazier to be cut to fit another tank.
I get hes not being malicious with his mistakes- they're genuine (dumb) mistakes, hes not pissing on something that brings me joy on purpose. Its just the equivalent of my dad reversing his brand new car into our neighbours car (ignoring all the warning beeps). Or me reversing his other brand new car into another car because I failed to check a side mirror. (Apparently my genetic line has a habit of damaging my partners brand new cars.)
But I just feel so disportionatly upset that he wasn't more careful about something that mattered to me, that U worked hard on, that isnt easy to fix.
Posted by missbean163